This newly updated website is a great resource for our Spina Bifida families. Please use it to the fullest so we can all connect and help one another. Thanks to Jeremy for putting it together!
By: Scott Von Behren on July 2, 2008 at 5:55 pm
Hi! My name is Jeanne Knapp. Thank you for creating this blog space for us on here. It’s ashame that it seems I’m the first person to respond.
Anyway, I have a question. I am 31 years old and I have Spina Bifida. I can walk with a cane for short distances (within my house,etc.) and I have two wheelchairs (an electric and manual) and a Rascal scooter. I am a single Christian (baptist) woman who’s dating a single Christian 35 year old man right now who also has Spina Bifida. He’s in a manual wheelchair and is in it about 99% of the time. He lives on his own in a ranch house in Raytown and I live with my parents in Blue Springs in a house that is split-level (both an upstairs and downstairs area), but my bedroom, the kitchen, and livingroom/dining room are in the main level in between those two areas. I just wanted to introduce myself and tell you a little about me.
My question for you is this: What are the regulations for couples adopting children? Would we be able to, given our backgrounds,etc.? I know these questions may sound premature since I am not married (no proposal yet),etc. However, my boyfriend and I have talked about getting married, having children (We want to do it in the order.) off/on for the past 3 years we’ve been together. I would like to find out if adoption would be an option for me/us if I/we choose to do so in the future.
I have had health issues in the past couple years (bowels, mostly) due to nerve damage from Spina Bifida. Those health issues have brought me a lot of abdomenal pain which makes me not want to have children naturally. We first started talking about options more seriously beginning last summer, actually. At first, when we talked about our options, my boyfriend didn’t think avoiding pain was a good reason not to at least try to have kids. However, my GYN doctor told me last summer that she didn’t recommend me getting pregnant, even after I got married, because of my health issues and the medications I’m on for those health issues. When I told my boyfriend that, he decided that reason was a good enough reason for me not to at least try to get pregnant after we got married. He hasn’t said anything about it since then and I have been afraid to bring up the subject again because I’m afraid he’ll think I’m pushing him to marry me and I don’t want to push him away. So I don’t want him to find out about my investigation, yet. I also don’t want my parents to find out because I don’t want to hear “Now, Jeanne, don’t push.”
Anyway, I hope to hear from you soon regarding this matter. Thank you or any information you can give me.
This newly updated website is a great resource for our Spina Bifida families. Please use it to the fullest so we can all connect and help one another. Thanks to Jeremy for putting it together!
By: Scott Von Behren on July 2, 2008
at 5:55 pm
Hi! My name is Jeanne Knapp. Thank you for creating this blog space for us on here. It’s ashame that it seems I’m the first person to respond.
Anyway, I have a question. I am 31 years old and I have Spina Bifida. I can walk with a cane for short distances (within my house,etc.) and I have two wheelchairs (an electric and manual) and a Rascal scooter. I am a single Christian (baptist) woman who’s dating a single Christian 35 year old man right now who also has Spina Bifida. He’s in a manual wheelchair and is in it about 99% of the time. He lives on his own in a ranch house in Raytown and I live with my parents in Blue Springs in a house that is split-level (both an upstairs and downstairs area), but my bedroom, the kitchen, and livingroom/dining room are in the main level in between those two areas. I just wanted to introduce myself and tell you a little about me.
My question for you is this: What are the regulations for couples adopting children? Would we be able to, given our backgrounds,etc.? I know these questions may sound premature since I am not married (no proposal yet),etc. However, my boyfriend and I have talked about getting married, having children (We want to do it in the order.) off/on for the past 3 years we’ve been together. I would like to find out if adoption would be an option for me/us if I/we choose to do so in the future.
I have had health issues in the past couple years (bowels, mostly) due to nerve damage from Spina Bifida. Those health issues have brought me a lot of abdomenal pain which makes me not want to have children naturally. We first started talking about options more seriously beginning last summer, actually. At first, when we talked about our options, my boyfriend didn’t think avoiding pain was a good reason not to at least try to have kids. However, my GYN doctor told me last summer that she didn’t recommend me getting pregnant, even after I got married, because of my health issues and the medications I’m on for those health issues. When I told my boyfriend that, he decided that reason was a good enough reason for me not to at least try to get pregnant after we got married. He hasn’t said anything about it since then and I have been afraid to bring up the subject again because I’m afraid he’ll think I’m pushing him to marry me and I don’t want to push him away. So I don’t want him to find out about my investigation, yet. I also don’t want my parents to find out because I don’t want to hear “Now, Jeanne, don’t push.”
Anyway, I hope to hear from you soon regarding this matter. Thank you or any information you can give me.
Sincerely,
Jeanne M. Knapp
By: Jeanne Knapp on September 8, 2008
at 2:14 am